How to Practice Self-Love Like You Mean It

By Kelly Cunningham

Have the concept of practicing self-love ever crossed your mind? The concept may seem silly and even a bit self-indulgent at first, especially if you’re constantly doting on everyone else. Why is it that we have such an easy time showing tenderness to our children, partners, and friends, but when it comes to ourselves, it feels foreign? 

The following self-love techniques are attainable, affordable, and will help foster a positive relationship between you and, well, you.

6 Self-Love Techniques

Squash Negative Self-Talk

Take note of harmful thought patterns that may be limiting your potential. Think of your inner voice as your inner child—speak to it kindly! Daily affirmations and journaling are great tools to help with this. 

Prioritize Your Health

This means nourishing your body with healthy, energy-boosting foods, making regular time for physical activity (whatever that means to you), getting enough sleep, building white space into your day, and any other actions that support your mental and physical well-being.

Set Boundaries

Whether at the office, with extended family, or between you and the six hours you spent scrolling on TikTok last night, setting boundaries is a way to maintain healthy relationships and preserve your sanity. (Say, for example, your boss is texting you on the weekend. Boundary-setting would be telling him or her that they can no longer text you outside of normal business hours.) Although setting boundaries can be awkward at first, it’s worth it in the long run.

Make Time for Self-Care

Self-care is a crucial part of loving yourself. Making time for self-care means that we think we are worthy of love, attention and TLC. Try to set aside time in your schedule to do things that make you happy, even if it’s something as simple as going for a walk or baking a pie. 

Show Yourself Compassion

Ditch the perfection mentality (it’s the enemy of self-love), and realize that you’re human and you’re going to make mistakes. It’s important to get comfortable with that notion and change the way you react to them when they happen. Instead of interpreting mistakes as a sign that you’re a failure, view them as an opportunity to learn and grow. 

Practice Authenticity

Don’t hide the parts of you that are messy and imperfect, embarrassing or shameful. Don’t fear the judgment of others (it says nothing about you and a whole lot about them). The only person you need to please is yourself. So live your life full out. Be unapologetically and authentically you. 

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About Kelly Cunningham
Kelly Cunningham is a professional counselor, integrative health coach, holistic health practitioner, and Nutritious Life Certified nutrition coach. She currently resides in Southern California providing services to a national client base.

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