Is Having Willpower Actually a Bad Thing?

willpowerYou wouldn’t have polished off that pint of Ben & Jerry’s had you had more willpower, right? Weakling.

But, then again, you tried to eat in moderation. And anything is fine in moderation, right?

Besides, you had a guilt free dinner first, so you have no reason to feel guilty…

If all those instagrams, pins, FB videos, and inspirational quotes everywhere online have been fueling you with good-for-you, empowering thoughts, then why are you feeling full and mentally crappy at 10pm after a single ice cream overindulgence?

Many of the messages we are giving and receiving are, perhaps…broken.

Are we (meaning those of us who are nutritionists, fitness professionals, etc.) giving advice that is doing more harm than good, and are those of us who are looking for motivation really paying attention to our sources for inspiration or the true meaning behind the messages?

It becomes almost too easy to repost, regram or regurgitate the sayings you see and hear all the time without stopping to think about what the messages really mean. What if you could learn not just only the science of nutrition, but also how to decipher and deliver your messages and your voice? That’s what real education is, and why you should know about The Nutrition School.

The fact is, social media quotes can sure look pretty, but some of them are doing the exact opposite of what they are intended to do, and it makes me cringe when I see… something like this.

Here’s what I mean.


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Willpower, Moderation, and Guilt: 3 Words I Don’t Use

willpower is a muscle

Willpower is a term that gets a lot of positive attention. But, actually, it’s a term that is very negative. Have you ever said, “I’m not going to eat the cake!” or “I’m not going to eat the pasta!” It’s all negative energy.  Why should we focus so much energy on pushing ourselves to not do things? I have found with my clients that this just doesn’t work.

First, it can create stress, and we know what that does: Cortisol, a stress hormone, increases. This can cause weight around the midsection and make us crave the worst types of food. If you’re “stressing out” about eating the pasta, guess what? You may gain weight (without even eating the pasta, due to stress) and likely you’re going to end up eating it too, because cortisol causes you to crave it more!

Focusing on positive behaviors trumps willpower every day of the week. I have my clients focus on the CAN’s: you CAN have the blueberries and a cup of green tea that you love, or you CAN have a small bowl of pasta as a side dish with a big ole portion of veggies and some lean protein as your main course. Trust me. This works.

This is what eating empowered is all about, and something I teach in The Nutrition School. So, next time you feel like you have to white knuckle it to prove you indeed have willpower, just stop, and remove the word willpower from your vocabulary and your instagram feed.


 

Everything in moderation 1“Everything in Moderation” seems like such an accepting way to approach goals, right?

Wrong. It’s way too abstract to be effective.

Ask anybody what ‘everything in moderation’ means to them and each one will give you a different answer. What does moderation really mean, to you?

The first problem with this is that there are some foods that should never be eaten. Yes, just are there are healthy foods, there are also some “bad” foods!

That is not to say you are a “bad person” for eating them but as an example, fluorescent orange fried things out of a bag are “bad” foods! There is no moderation here.

Wine? Technically 2 drinks a day for men and 1 for women is moderation. But my guess is someone would say double that is moderation, or others can justify drinking nothing during the week but as much as they want on the weekends.

Chocolate? Well this depends on other “indulgences” that are eaten and will vary from person to person. For some, a half ounce a day is moderation. For others, an entire chocolate bar in one sitting once a month is moderation.

Broccoli? No moderation. Please indulge more.

I think you get the point.

Moderation is often used as an excuse to do or eat something or stray from a healthy diet and at best it doesn’t mean much of anything.

While the ‘everything in moderation’ mantra sounds reasonable it can often be used as an excuse to proliferate poor behavior. Better to educate that same client to think about eating empowered and what she can eat or learning how many conscious indulgences she can work into her plan. It’s all about the attitude behind the actual eating of the cookie.

When giving advice on moderation, being specific beats blanket statements every time. Again, a concept anyone who has become Nutritious Life Certified is taught.


 

guilt free
“Guilt Free”
is a master-miserable-motivator. If guilt doesn’t exist in the first place, there is nothing to be free from. In order to learn to never feel guilt around food, we need to stop attaching it even in the ‘guilt free’ way.

‘Guilt free’ cookies? Eat this chicken parm ‘guilt free’? Isn’t that really saying that if we ate it another way we should feel guilty?

I know eating ‘guilt free’ is supposed to be positive, but really it’s just exacerbating the guilt feelings.

If you choose to eat chicken parm, it should be a conscious indulgence. Yep, you guessed it — a big topic I cover in The Nutrition School. It’s a choice you made to enjoy something delicious that you love, and one that you made willingly from a place of empowerment, knowing you can listen to your body and enjoy a small portion. There is no guilt in that, ever.

And therefore changing the ingredients or baking instead of frying, for example, should not somehow make that chicken parm ‘guilt free’. It just makes it healthier, which is all good in my book.  

We don’t feel empowered eating ‘guilt free’. There shouldn’t be guilt in the first place to be free from! We feel empowered eating from an empowered place and listening to our bodies.

So, the deal is, just as you put on an outfit every morning, look in the mirror, and figure out if it’s right for your mood and the weather, it’s time to start pondering the same for your inspiration.

Where did it come from? Why does it speak to you? Who is sharing it and why do they believe in it?

With so many voices in health and wellness sometimes it’s hard to pick out the ones that really resonate with you. And if you’re the one trying to have your voice be heard, are you thinking about what you are putting out there as much as you should? Are you doing it because everyone else is or because you really believe in it? Is your message the one you intend to give, or could you actually be giving advice you don’t fully buy into or love, accidentally?

I’m not here to judge what you are putting out there. I’m here to encourage you to think about what you’re giving, and what you’re getting.

If you beat yourself up because you have no willpower, perhaps you should  feel EMPOWERED deciding that that philosophy doesn’t work for you. It doesn’t work for me either.

And, if you ate guilt free french toast this morning but you still feel guilty about the piece of cake you ate for your co-workers birthday, then guess what? It’s ok to remove guilt free from your vocab. It’s not in mine.

And, if eating in moderation is something you say flippantly on the outside, but internally you get that twinge of regret when that breadstick hits your lips, then maybe you need to accept that moderation for you may just be an excuse to stray from healthy eating.

And if you’re the one posting inspiration about willpower and guilt and moderation or using these terms with your clients, I’m going to challenge you to challenge me. Why do you believe in it? Why does it speak to your clients and followers? I really want to know, and I’d love to hear your points of view!

Let me know your thoughts on social media, and take a peek at The Nutrition School. If you’re interested in learning more about my philosophies and how I educate my clients, you’re hungry for nutrition knowledge, and you want to join the outstanding Nutritious Life Certified community,  then applying to The Nutrition School might be the perfect next step for you. 


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